My persuit of happiness...

Guys, the one thing that i understood very very clearly is that 'Money doesn't buy you happiness'. This is a notion that everyone has that, more money gives you more happiness is utter bullshit. Gautama Buddha knew this and preached it 2500 years ago and it seems the message hasn't quite got the importance it deserves. My craving for exotic, exclusive, elusive, expensive, beautiful etc., things does not end with anything. I get bored very fast with my stuff... donno for how much time will my wife be new to me....Ha Ha ;)

I should have planned my career in a better way. That, money doesn't buy happiness is something I wish I should/could have experienced much earlier in my life and maybe then I could have planned my career to suit my abilities so that the job gives me more happiness. At the moment I feel that I have straitjacketed myself in a field that I don't like or I have little aptitude! What to do now? Can't help. I am only just started venturing into a new direction and I should not be so pessimistic so, maybe I am wrong now and maybe I might like it.....

I predict my future based on my past.

There are two main aspects to my life in terms of 'luck' as it is now at the moment. Luck plays a very important part in anyone's life as the world is not perfect and we only believe in God simply to pass the buck. Luck is something that you are not in control of and you will never be. It is beyond anyone control.

Firstly there is luck in terms how lucky I am and then the other aspect is "un-luck" in terms of how unlucky i have been all through my life till now.

I have been the most luckiest in terms of my parents. There cannot be anyone in this Universe who can love me more than my Dad and my Mom. I say this after analyzing other's parents and their domain, how i treat my parents; believe me it is a scientific sort of analysis that i did! Being born at a time when doctors were considered next to God is another thing . Studying in BHEL is because of fate. I did not chose it , it was chosen on my behalf is another thing that proved to be lucky. Not getting a medical seat has proved to be a boon. Had I got a medical seat and completed my medicine, I would not have handled as well as I am doing now.

Now I am looking through a crystal ball and predicting that my life would not be as easy as it is now. My wife and kids cannot love me as much as my parents love me today. I may not earn as much as I would like to. That's it!

I really want to say this

Terrorism is finally home! Finally it has arrived in Hyderabad with a bloody bang. The cozy nature of hyderabad nightlife will end finally. The thing that struck me after the blasts and debates and interviews with Muslim leadership aftermath is that, the hyderabadi muslim is a very frustrated soul. He attributes his personal failing completely to his being a follower of Islam. The main muslim leader, i think his name is Owaisi has remained a big talker and non performer, non co operator with authorities. He just cannot control the feeling of hatred with positive talk and actions, instead he passes the buck on the government. After the mecca masjid blast, police wanted to fit surveillance cameras around the mosque but due to stiff opposition that could not happen. The language he uses and the way he talks makes me wonder about this moron as who votes him in the elections. He has no friends in political circles apart from Muslims and yet he survives.

The common muslim in old city has become a very communal person with only hatred towards non muslims and ready to create trouble given any opportunity. The muslim community needs a leader with brains and a vision to change the present mindsets. Muslims complain about being made 'victims' every time arrests are made but fail to understand why only muslims are associated with terrorism. There must be some reason why that happens and definitely there is something wrong with them. Every muslim needs to do soul searching in the present context. The present situation is very bad and probably might get even bad if more blasts occur and more are arrested.

Travails of a daughter

Now I know what it means to a daughter and why so many girls are murdered at birth or shortly after birth. But still I would like to have two daughters and one son!

We, as a family are facing tremendous mental agony because of our repeated failure to a get a suitable match for my sister. Every match that we think is good finds some trivial reason to reject the relation. As a man this seems to defy logic. When we[men] are in college, girls always seem to play hard to get and they always had someone, be it a silent wussy or a chivalrous eye candy ready to take care of all their 'nakhras'. But when it comes to a arranged marriage, the tables are completely turned. In a arranged marriage, the boy always seems to be in command. He expects the girl to qualify to his standards and has the make or break decision with him or his family.

The girl, who enjoyed such a fan following in college days is reduced to a commodity. "Our girl comes with a car", "This girl earns XXX amount and comes with a scooter", "Does your girl know how to teach Einstein's theory of relativity?". Maybe I exaggerated a bit, but the point is The girl is reduced to a commodity. These are the sort of questions and queries you will find in a typical marriage 'negotiations' that are flung at the girl's father. I just cannot understand how, the professional qualifications of me matter in my sister's marriage. They routinely ask what i do? what is your qualification? how much i earn and stuff like that. Nobody dares question the family or earning credentials of a groom. This is so unjust and at the same time quite funny too, when you think that a girl, who not too long ago was a 'star' and center of attraction in a classroom, would by herself be not good enough proposition as a wife material. She has to be supported with dowry and only then would the whole package be 'salable'.

Poor girls...I feel sorry for the de-elevation they experience at marriage!!!!!!!!!!!

Love, Marriage and Divorce. My Perspective

Here's my take and love, love marriage, marriage and divorce and such stuff...

The first thing I want to say is why love marriages 'fail' as compared to arranged marriage that seem to 'work'! OK, now let us discuss about crush and 'college love'. When a girl and boy meet in such 'sterile' environs like college or school, I think they are not sufficiently corrupt with caste, religion and social status ideas which gives them an opportunity of a free hand to choose whomsoever they like in their environs. They love someone if they like each other and very rarely because that person belongs to a particular caste or or has certain social standing. Your mind gets corrupted with social evils as grow old!

When they get married, they are without any support from their respective families and this causes them to invest more effort and time to take care of themselves. Normally, a mother or a mother-in-law would take care of newborn but this does not happen in love marriages. The girl has to take care of the baby and herself too, which is a strain to a new wed girl.
Let us not forget that marriage is a marriage!!! It does not matter if the marriage happened because of some ad hoc arrangement or self arrangement or no arrangement at all; married people have the same problems with same solutions. The number of people who can solve the problems is less in love marriages than arranged marriages.

Now I want to say what I feel is a successful marriage: Suppose I marry a girl who I think is good for me and later on if i come to know that she is incompatible, I would prefer to divorce that person rather than spend my whole life. It does not matter if the marriage was love or arranged, all that matters to me is whether i am happy or not. You should not run a marriage simply because you have to make a success out of it for others to see and cheer! Why should i spend my whole life with someone who does not like me?? I would rather split and find someone better.

If you successfully divorce someone you don't like, then according to me that marriage is a success.