Travails of a daughter

Now I know what it means to a daughter and why so many girls are murdered at birth or shortly after birth. But still I would like to have two daughters and one son!

We, as a family are facing tremendous mental agony because of our repeated failure to a get a suitable match for my sister. Every match that we think is good finds some trivial reason to reject the relation. As a man this seems to defy logic. When we[men] are in college, girls always seem to play hard to get and they always had someone, be it a silent wussy or a chivalrous eye candy ready to take care of all their 'nakhras'. But when it comes to a arranged marriage, the tables are completely turned. In a arranged marriage, the boy always seems to be in command. He expects the girl to qualify to his standards and has the make or break decision with him or his family.

The girl, who enjoyed such a fan following in college days is reduced to a commodity. "Our girl comes with a car", "This girl earns XXX amount and comes with a scooter", "Does your girl know how to teach Einstein's theory of relativity?". Maybe I exaggerated a bit, but the point is The girl is reduced to a commodity. These are the sort of questions and queries you will find in a typical marriage 'negotiations' that are flung at the girl's father. I just cannot understand how, the professional qualifications of me matter in my sister's marriage. They routinely ask what i do? what is your qualification? how much i earn and stuff like that. Nobody dares question the family or earning credentials of a groom. This is so unjust and at the same time quite funny too, when you think that a girl, who not too long ago was a 'star' and center of attraction in a classroom, would by herself be not good enough proposition as a wife material. She has to be supported with dowry and only then would the whole package be 'salable'.

Poor girls...I feel sorry for the de-elevation they experience at marriage!!!!!!!!!!!